What stays with the viewer most after watching Ken Wardrop’s documentary His & Hers (2011) is not the power of film, specifically documentary, to capture the intricacies of normal life; it’s the beauty of the apparently ‘normal life’ itself.
The relatively uninspiring subject of presenting a series of women (seventy in total) talking about the men in their lives reminds the viewer that when the ordinary is highlighted, it ceases to remain just that, and the association felt between viewer and character becomes extraordinary. And His & Hers is an extraordinary film – particularly in its ability to coerce the viewer into deep affection for every character presented despite each one being provided with a relatively short amount of screen time.
The film showcases a multitude of women that successively increase with age, finally culminating in a 90-year-old’s account. The structure of the film is so simple yet remarkably effective, as it follows the subtle trajectory of interviewing a succession of women that gradually increase with age and experience.
The narrative thread of His & Hers is invisible; never overtly indicated, yet pleasantly noticeable. For example, in a small trilogy within the film, one woman discusses the possibility of being pregnant, another is subsequently shown to be expecting, whilst another discusses the joy of her newborn son. The curvature of the film, once discovered, does create a sense of inevitability towards discussion of death, loss and loneliness yet the anticipation is never pre-empted, and the audience simply sails along with the film’s simple placidity.
Later on in the film, the observations of formal relationships continue the trend, from one woman describing her wedding plan wall chart to another demonstrating her separated washing line (one for herself, one for her boyfriend). The appearance of dogs in certain episodes are distinctly shown to be unique, offering a basis of character whilst representing the absent man and his attachment to the home in the dualistic structure of marriage and commitment.
His & Hers acts as testament to the ordinariness – but joyfulness – of human life. The film focuses on those simplle pleasures that are never usually highlighted: a mother’s greatest pleasure knowing that even though her son has left her home that he is ‘a good human being’, another describing hers as a ‘work in progress’. Although characters names are never shared, the film’s undoubted foundation is the extraction of personality; the love and devotion these women demonstrate to the men in their lives, offers a comfort that remains long after the film has finished. What is encompassed is a feminised reflection on male roles, emotions and expectations.
Although His & Hers is defiantly nationalised in its interviewees being solely Irish, what is undoubtedly profound is its universal quality. It may not be suitable for repeat viewing but you have to feel envious for each new audience that it reaches, with most people discovering at least one anecdote that could have been the taken straight from their own recollection. Its effect, though we may not realise it altogether, will remain predominantly in its simple highlighting of a subject inherent in the viewer themselves. One woman informs of her recovery from an illness, that it “gently goes away and life returns to normal”. None more appropriate a statement can be found to befit the effect of such a beautiful film.